The Coates Perspective for February 12, 2013
“Steering Organizations To New Horizons.”
Are You Connecting?
There are two kinds of leaders: those who really care about the needs of others and those who really care about their own needs. For those who really care about others, you will quickly discover that their leadership style affirms others, gives value to others, and empowers others with the knowledge that the leader really cares about them and they matter. There is an important leadership principle in play here. The leader who cares does not talk through people but talks to them. A caring leader is intentional when it comes to looking out for the good of others.
On the other hand, the self-absorbed, inauthentic leader may seek to give the appearance of caring for others. They might even offer words that sound good but have no respect behind them. What kind of leader do you want to be? One who offers sincere praise or one who offers empty words?
Coach Bill Walsh once said, “Nothing is more effective than sincere, accurate praise, and nothing is more lame than a cookie-cutter compliment.”
Here is the take-a-way for the leader who desires to connect with others. How is it done? What does a leader have to do in order to connect? Here are a few suggestions:
1. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Don’t be a verbal hypocrite.
2. Give value to the person by sincerely listening to them. Focus on them, not on your next question to ask them.
3. Be strategic in learning about the life stories of those who are following you. Knowing their life stories will help you do a better job of connecting with them.
You’ve read my perspective. Now, I’d love to hear yours. What are you thinking? How do you connect with others?
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